The whole world seems to be shaken and stirred these days. I truly believe that as we are on the cusp of big changes that will be happening not just on the world stage (macro level) but for each individual (micro level).
So what could that personal big change be? What if 2020 is your year of perfect vision, where you have clarity and focus like never before? What if that clarity and focus was the foundation for an empowering new decade for you?
Here’s my challenge for you. I’ve got 3 things to get your 2020 vision on track:
(1) Think of something important that you want but has eluded you till now.
Something you want to be different in the next year and the coming decade – and that would really enhance your life:
- Improved relationship with your mother/ brother/ partner/ child
- Becoming healthy
- Feeling comfortable in your own skin
- Knowing your life purpose
- Being in a loving relationship
- Creating financial security
- Moving into a career that you love
(2) Imagine you in late 2020, and this thing no longer eludes you –
you either have it or you have clarity around the next steps to achieve it.
How do you feel?
Confident, relaxed, energized, happy, strong, loving?
How do you look? Is your body different? Are your clothes different? Do you carry yourself differently?
How is your life different because of that thing that has come into focus?
What do you know about that thing that you want to bring into being in 2020? E.g. what would an improved relationship with your mother look like? What expected impact on your life would there be to you knowing your life purpose?
Play around with this imagining and feeling into how you would love it to be in late 2020, if this thing no longer eluded you. You could journal about it or just let yourself daydream for a while.
(3) It is a journey to get there. What one step could you take towards that 2020 vision now?
Look with fresh eyes. Just because you didn’t achieve something in the past does not mean you can’t achieve it now. You are an evolving being and maybe this is the perfect time for this to finally fall into place for you!
10 or 15 years ago a friend of mine Conrad was giving up smoking, yet again. I’ll always remember his remark ‘one of these times it will be my final time’. And he hasn’t smoked since. Just because you didn’t succeed in the past, please don’t let that stop you going for that important change again now.
My sister struggled with her weight for 20 years. She tried many things over the years but none had a dramatic impact. About 2 years ago she lost over 5lb (32kg+)!! I’m so proud of her! She now loves the gym, eats well, still parties hard, and overflows with vitality and enthusiasm for life.
So have a real honest look at what stumped you in the past? How could that not trip you up again?
What support (professional or otherwise) could help you and stop that same issue sabotaging you again now?
E.g. if you want to lose weight would a personal trainer, a nutritionist or a weight loss coach provide the knowledge and support you need?
My sister loves her personal trainer and that wonderful relationship really kept her motivated. Now its how much better she feels physically and emotionally that keeps her motivated.
So who can be your supporter, who keeps you motivated and believing in yourself?
Would an accountability buddy help you to take consistent action?
As a transformational mentor, I love guiding and supporting people on empowering journeys. I connect you to your inner knowing so you are taking purposeful confident actions to create a powerful change.
However you embark on the journey to bring your 2020 vision into being, the 3 key components for you to keep in mind are support, knowledge and continuous action.
So in summary your challenge is:
- Chose one important thing
- Visualise how you want to be in relation to it in late 2020
- Get support, build knowledge, take ACTION
And make it an enjoyable journey to the next awesome version of you!!
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When we describe something as being very ‘corporate’ the last thing we think of is human kindness. However those of us who work in the corporate world know all too well that corporate business is really all about people. Robots haven’t taken over yet!
Sometimes in the office we can feel negative towards or just disconnected from the people around us. We are busy doing our job; those around us are busy with their jobs. It can be easy to forget that we are all complex, diverse, multi dimensional, amazing people. No person can be otherwise because all human beings have had a kaleidoscope of varied experiences. What I do sometimes to nurture the human connection is actively find things to appreciate about others. All it takes is to look at them with fresh eyes and acknowledging something about them that I like… even if overall they are not my cup of tea!
I may see the guy who is annoyingly loud, and notice that he is usually very upbeat and positive too.
I may notice the lovely gentle energy of the quite guy who seems almost invisible in the office hustle and bustle.
I may see someone light up when she talks about her kids, or find out that she loves architecture & thinks London is the best place in the world to live.
There is a lot of ‘blending in’ in the office, look how much grey, navy and white is worn!. Yet when we get curious we can start to see people’s uniqueness. We are so much more than our job titles, how well we do our job or where we are in the corporation’s hierarchy. When we broaden our view, maybe taking 30 seconds to notice someone or to engage in conversation at the water machine, seeing more dimensions of our colleagues then we start to enjoy more things about them. They don’t have to be our new bestie but they don’t need to be invisible or an annoyance.
How would your week be different if you set yourself a task to look at three colleagues with fresh eyes? Find something to appreciate in them that you haven’t seen or realized before. Be open and curious to whatever that may be. Maybe you will share something about yourself too that is totally unrelated to work. As you open more to others know that you are opening up to more generosity of spirit within yourself too. You are instigating more human connection, and after all corporations are really all about the people.
At one time it seemed as though my life flowed in two parallel streams – in one I was the Gina who could thrive in the main stream corporate world, and in the other I was the alternative, hippy, spiritual Gina. They just didn’t seem to gel together. I thought they were destined never to integrate so I switched continuously from one stream to another. Monday to Friday I was immersed in the adrenaline fuelled chaos of an investment bank, which had a level of excitement and fulfilment but still left me lacking. During weekends I was often on soul connection retreats, being guided to know my true essence, perhaps with some peaceful OM chants thrown in. There I’d reach a level of inner connectedness and fulfilment that didn’t seem possible in my working life. I certainly straddled different worlds!
Eventually I discovered that I could indeed integrate those apparently opposing sides of me. I didn’t need to start a meeting by chanting three OMs or ask my colleagues to tune into their higher guidance! But that same part of me that I connected to when on retreats, could be integrated into my working life, most effectively by me simply being kinder to myself. The more often I let benevolence permeate my actions, my words, my thoughts and my feelings, the more meaning and contentment I felt at work. My day flowed better.
The integration process was complete by me recognising the contribution I was making to my surroundings just by having a gentler inner voice. I can so clearly recall a colleague one day saying, to my surprise, that she felt so calm just sitting beside me! Over time other colleagues made similar comments.
Our internal voice effects the people around us, just as much and sometimes more than our spoken words.
I grew in awareness of how my more loving internal world could enriched those around me, and it was a game changer. That is what gave my working life a deeper level of satisfaction and meaning. I enjoyed my working day in a new way, I was happier and others seemed to feel good around me. Beyond the job I was being paid to do, I felt like I had a secret mission! For the first time in my corporate job, just by being my best self, I felt purposeful.
No doubt I’ll still search for bigger and deeper ways to make a positive impact on the the world, because its in human nature to want to grow and expand. But it feels good to know that when I tune in to my most loving self and move beyond my fears, doubts and frustrations, that that is perhaps the most wonderful contribution I can make to life.